Marrying your first boyfriend (and other BGR myths & misconceptions)
|my favourite photo of us to date|
This afternoon J.G. and I are invited to be guests at a BGR Forum. I shudder at the thought.
What if they are expecting nice well-composed married couples who have had equally smooth-sailing and wonderful dating histories. . . I'm probably on the other end of that spectrum.
Also, what if they ask embarrassing questions like when did you have your first kiss?
My personality is completely unsuited for P.D.A (public displays of affection for the unknowing)
because I'm the cynical one who rolls her eyes at couples snuggling together in the train or on the escalator.
Nonetheless, if I survive this forum, I will return to share my experience in another blog post. For now, these are some popular statements I've heard about boy-girl relationships that I have SERIOUS issues with. Have a read an share your thoughts with me -
1. You have to be sure you will marry the person before you date him/her
But if you are SO sure, what's the point of the dating / discovering / learning process? Is that not what dating is for in the first place? So you end up eventually marrying the right dude.
2. Dating and courtship are totally different things
What was that again?
3. Sleeping / living together is cool as long as I end up marrying him/her
Since you're going to get married anyway. . .why not wait till then?
4. The best time to date is when I'm mature enough
Don't kid yourself. Who's ever mature enough?
5. Marry your first love
Don't even get me started.
As you can see, I'm a terrible source of wise words and dating advice.
But I would love to hear your thoughts and / or if you have any other statements you'd like to me to rip apart.